The courage (and opportunity) to not know – It’s ‘Future’ month and we repost one of Philip Patston’s posts from the past, about having the courage to not know…
Philip Patston writes, conflict needs generosity to heal. It needs a commitment to suspend judgement and seek solutions. But most of all it needs the person who feels aggrieved to model what they want from those by whom they feel offended. It’s a tough pill to swallow and a lesson in counter-intuition. And it’s a very, very effective recipe for conflict resolution, I promise you.
I have a strong value around generosity in my life. I like to give to others, whether it be time, energy, or money/resources (when I can afford it). I try to be a giving and generous friend, partner, family member and employee. I’ve based my whole career as a therapist around being generous – giving freely of my emotional energy and support to others. This isn’t always a good thing.
What we’re not saying about porn – There’s a lot of moral hysteria about pornography — sorry to state the obvious. The panic targets both the industry and its main audience, young men.
My Experience with Debauchery: Did you know people with disabilities are capable of debauchery and excessive behaviour? I don’t see this topic discussed openly very often, and I think this is a shame.
Nooky. Rumpy-pumpy. Crumpet. – Nikki writes about the debaucherous topic of sex and disability.
What do you think of when I talk about addiction? Maybe wild parties, immoral people without boundaries, illicit drug use, a debaucherous lifestyle? Perhaps you imagine the popular idea of an “addict” – someone who either can’t control themselves or makes a choice to take drugs to the detriment of their own wellbeing.
This month we chat to Julie, who runs a group called Drumbeat – a group for parents, caregivers and people who care for young people who are gender questioning.