As I write this, I am worried. You see, it’s the 5th of August today, and this blog should ideally be written, completed and sent by the 6th. It’s late at night, and I am seriously contemplating the prospect that unless I get my ‘A’ into ‘G’, as they say, something bad will happen – namely, for the first time in the four years or so that I have been turning in a blog on time for the good people at DPSN, this one will be late.
I know nothing dreadful will happen if it is; at worst, I might get a tactful email from Sam, reminding me what the date is, and suggesting I might want to let one of the other bloggers have a turn this month instead? And by the way, am I alright? They’re lovely like that. (Don’t worry, I’m fine, and my fellow bloggers should all be able to rest uninterrupted – for this month, anyway!)
But there are all sorts of people around the world with serious worries about the future. For some, it’s whether they will earn enough to live on comfortably this week. For others, it’s about the fortunes of the stock market, and whether they will be able to keep their money safe. But whatever their fears about the future, one thing is for certain – it’s coming. Constantly. As I write this, the future is happening…
In general, the future is unknown. Unknown things are usually scary. What can we do to make that fear manageable?
For one thing, we can plan for the things we expect are going to happen. Most of us will get older. So we need to think at some stage about how we will handle the changes – physical, social, environmental – that come with age. Doing this while you have plenty of time to prepare isn’t gloomy, it’s sensible.
We can also sort the things we can do something about, from the things that we can’t. For instance, as we age, our physical bodies are going to go through some changes. I’m 53, and one of the things I have found hard to adjust to is needing aids to walk. I walked independently until the age of 30, and the realisation that I probably never will do so again is pretty grounding. Not that I have a problem with using a wheelchair or crutches, I know several lovely people who are, and they cope – in fact, not just cope, but thrive. But at the same time, there’s the realisation for me that in the future, I may need to look at finding a wheelchair accessible environment to live in.
But for the things we can’t avoid, like retirement maybe, growing up, or having to leave school and make your own way in the world – while you can prepare for these things, I think that we must do so knowing that although they are going to happen no matter what, you can and will get through them. Change is a part of life, and as they say in the movie “The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel”, change is like a wave – resist, and you’ll be knocked over.” So, go with it!
Have a happy future!