DPSN Vlog: Compassion

This month we chat to Julie, who runs a group called Drumbeat – a group for parents, caregivers and people who care for young people who are gender questioning.

Receiving compassion

I suppose you could say I’ve had a bit of a rough start to the year.  Some stomach issues which started just before Christmas 2017 cumulated in finding out I had acute cholecystitis – a condition where gallstones had blocked my bile duct, causing inflammation and a host of other more serious health risks.  I had to have a cholecystectomy (surgery to have my gallbladder removed) urgently, exactly one week before going on a three week holiday in Vietnam!

The passion – compassion – pity – contempt chain

Most close relationships — be they parental, friendships, intimate or professional — begin with passion. We see all the good things — the cuteness, the interesting ideas, the good looks, the skills, the strengths.

As the relationship matures and develops, we need to bring in compassion. This allows us to understand and excuse the naughtiness, the lateness, the strange habits, the occasional inflexibility, the weaknesses.

DPSN Vlog: Bodies

For our Video Blog this month, we have interviewed researcher George Parker about their studies of fatphobia in healthcare, and the importance of centring compassion, justice and care: