Generosity and Conflict – A Mighty Combo

Philip Patston writes, conflict needs generosity to heal. It needs a commitment to suspend judgement and seek solutions. But most of all it needs the person who feels aggrieved to model what they want from those by whom they feel offended. It’s a tough pill to swallow and a lesson in counter-intuition. And it’s a very, very effective recipe for conflict resolution, I promise you.

When generosity doesn’t work

I have a strong value around generosity in my life.  I like to give to others, whether it be time, energy, or money/resources (when I can afford it).  I try to be a giving and generous friend, partner, family member and employee. I’ve based my whole career as a therapist around being generous – giving freely of my emotional energy and support to others.  This isn’t always a good thing.