I have a confession to make (but it’s not such a bad one). TED, a worldwide organisation which brings together speakers on education, business, science, tech and creativity, has a Youtube channel entirely devoted to short educational videos on a wide range of topics. My confession is that I’ve been slightly addicted to watching them lately, finding myself lost in a spiral of absorbing information on everything from how you digest food to how people lived in ancient Rome. They’re fascinating, and I strongly suggest you try them out.
I have a strong value around generosity in my life. I like to give to others, whether it be time, energy, or money/resources (when I can afford it). I try to be a giving and generous friend, partner, family member and employee. I’ve based my whole career as a therapist around being generous – giving freely of my emotional energy and support to others. This isn’t always a good thing.
What do you think of when I talk about addiction? Maybe wild parties, immoral people without boundaries, illicit drug use, a debaucherous lifestyle? Perhaps you imagine the popular idea of an “addict” – someone who either can’t control themselves or makes a choice to take drugs to the detriment of their own wellbeing.
I suppose you could say I’ve had a bit of a rough start to the year. Some stomach issues which started just before Christmas 2017 cumulated in finding out I had acute cholecystitis – a condition where gallstones had blocked my bile duct, causing inflammation and a host of other more serious health risks. I had to have a cholecystectomy (surgery to have my gallbladder removed) urgently, exactly one week before going on a three week holiday in Vietnam!
Early last year I talked about my newly developed anxiety around flying. In an effort to help me manage the problem better, later in the year I attended a “Flying without fear” course held out at Auckland Airport. Today I thought I’d share a few of the things that I learned in the hopes that it might help other people with a fear of flying.
The course contained a lot of information – some of it I already knew, some I knew about but had forgotten, and some was entirely new (and very helpful).
Sometimes I wonder if therapists, in general, have a bit of an image problem. So this month I decided to play the role of Agony Aunt.
Yesterday I was reminded yet again how much pressure is put on people to expect to feel ‘up’ all the time and that, if they feel ‘down’ for some reason, there’s something wrong with them.
Someone I was talking to had had it suggested to them they see a doctor because they weren’t feeling too good. Of course a doctor would have probably prescribed anti-depressants to “even out’ their mood.